Well, I know I'm a day early, but I would like to wish everybody a Happy Valentine's Day.
Last year, I sent out the lyrics to "A Song for the Lonely" by Cher on Valentine's Day. I thought it was appropriate, but I got very little support on it, and my beautiful friends actually made fun of me. Yeah I know it was Cher, but oh well...
Just like last year, most of us are still flying solo, which is quite sad. Why can't we find a decent significant other? Gees, we are capable of finding the hos, the psychos, the weirdos, the pedophiles, the ones who just want to be friends, the hook ups, the monogamously coupled, among many others. Are all these freaks outnumbering us, the nice and decent people?
I've been thinking about Valentine's Day and being lonely... This will be another Valentine’s Day that I spend alone and single. Why is it that we can't be happy being single? I mean we can be happy, and we are happy, but at the same time we are not! We are always looking, directly or indirectly, for somebody. We see couples together and we go: "awww how... disgusting! I hope you two die in hell!" Ok maybe not that vicious, but something along those lines, wishing that we could have the same.
The truth is that no matter what, nobody likes to be lonely. I think some people are actually afraid of being single and make compromises in order not to be alone. In a sense that’s bad too, because you end up fooling yourself into thinking you like a person more than you actually do.
Love is such a confusing feeling, isn’t it? It messes with our heads and our hearts so much we don’t even realize it… It has a life of its own and you have no control of whom you like. One just might like the seductive cokehead from school, the sweet pothead guy from work, the gay bartender, the lipstick lesbian next door, the best friend, your best friend’s boyfriend or girlfriend, your ex, your roommate…and the list goes on…
Our mission for 2003 can either be: BE HAPPY no matter what, if you are single or not. Don’t be afraid of being single, it’s not so bad. Stop trying to desperately find love, especially in the wrong places. Don’t compromise or lower your standards too much for someone who might not even be worth it.
Our other choice is: Go get them! Make sure you look DAMN good this year. Make the best out of it. Don’t be afraid to date, get out there and look for that ONE person. If not the one, someone close to it, or someone to keep you company for the time being (whichever your frame of mind is). Do whatever it takes to get what you want!
One of my managers today was saying that the ONE might be under your nose and you just don’t realize it. Taking Carrie’s words in mind too, make sure to look around you... You might have a surprise there (that’s how she met her husband).
Those of you, monogamously coupled, I have nothing against you at all. I love you even more for being successful in this "crazy little thing called love" but I just can't understand how it’s done. Some pointers on how to find a mate will be more than welcome.